The Great Divide

The Great Divide

For years I’ve been listening to the wider entrepreneurial community of business owners, CEO’s, nonprofit wranglers, industry pioneers, and people determined to brilliantly author their own lives.

Over the years, I began to pick up the thread of a persistent need that wasn’t being met. Like a cat, I started eyeing that thread to trace it back to it’s source.

What is it that we all keep running into? 

I kept hearing a similar experience — and a shared conundrum. Nobody was talking about it, yet it was widespread and pervasive. And it impacted everything.

At the table together, in the stuff of their business and lives, my clients and I were finding solutions to that need. But what exactly was it?

I asked lots of questions (a divine gift, it seems). My clients lived and shared. I felt through intuition, and walked through the practical intricacies of the strategies that brought my clients freedom, joy, and fulfillment — AND — doubled revenues, effective systems, and radically redesigned ways of doing and being that turned everything magnificently around.


One night, sitting with two CEOs who had won great business battles, conquered fierce competitors, and led their teams and ventures to great successes, were talking about what I then dubbed The Great Divide: the necessary and required division of ourselves into the divergent parts of our lives — family, work, community leadership, friendships, networking, leisure — in order to “get it all done.”

“It’s an art form,” one said to the other, as if it were as ordinary as two IT gals talking code.


And yet, 20 years of this work with clients has proven our binary mindset wrong. In every case, the single most pivotal factor to success was not artful division, but masterful union.

It is the bringing together of the (authentic) parts of ourselves, not the separation of them, that creates the greatest impact on our businesses, leadership, and the people in our lives.

More than tips and tricks of the trade. Not always separate from, but still more robustly than principles; even more than the skilled advisors advising us.

Many of us call it permission to do what we want. But it’s not permission. It’s discovery.

Every day the world throws us into the chasm between who we are, and who we think we need to be.

It is the intentional, mindful climb out that is truly elevating to everything we do.